I gave up and ended the relationship. She never loved me the way i loved her after it went downhill. It doesnt matter who you are, rejection is never easy. They swing on the monkey bars (so to speak). I loved this woman, enough to improve myself make big changes and be loyal to her. Sometimes it is good to follow your heart. I have never had any other boy friend. Dear Ambrose, this scenario is quite common among young lovers. Maybe you have many children with her. i was hurt i gave her so many chances but she cant. Now, all day, every day, a. You have to be roughMuch other things in life besides love, you have to lose yourself sometimes in order to find yourself. Any how he went back. My girlfriend cheated on me she said she fell out of love for a second. our relationship was better than the one before because we knew how to deal with each other also we became more mature. its my own fault time and again I have picked her up dusted her down and hoped for her to care about me like I do about her. She's not with him anymore, which is why she wants me back. I've tried to take my girl back because she talks a great game but then she pulls some BS and that's it. I never cheated beyond texts/photos. I moved in with him part time for 2 months then his house burnt down. You know how the saying goes the best way to get over a person is to get under the next. Theres some science to back that up. Wat should i do. About two and half years ago we met chatted so much on fb we both really fell in luv with each other and he asked me out and we started our relationship. Women just do it best. We could never go back to the way things were. The big thing I believe is if she wants you back she has to earn it and I would tell her that. humans arent perfect so i made some mistakes where i used to ignore her when i get mad and shouted at her once in front of people which she felt embarrassed and other things but she also made mistakes where she hurt me many times but i never gave up on her. Dear Heart to Heart, Before breaking up with my ex-girlfriend of four years she would neither call nor text no matter how much airtime I sent her. I can't pretend he didn't break my heart. Re: She Left Me When I Lost My Job, Now She Wants To Come Back. I just want to say I'm grateful. She broke it off the first time because her heart was telling her we weren't right for each other. You should never see your break-up as a done deal. Im not a quitter and felt we could fix it if we both put in the effort. I stopped being unfaithful, she was my one and everything after making that mistake. Youre going to be in an on-again/off-again relationship that only prolongs the pain of your eventual separation. When your girlfriend tells you she wants to be with another man as part of an experiment, and at the same time she assures you that her feelings for you are unchanged, then there is something terribly wrong with this relationship. This is about betrayal, lies, manipulation. It would bore anyone, even though she was always there for me, when i got sick she would take care of me and drive me to the hospital. Hopefully he and I both get over our ex's and find somebody that is true. I dont understand though, now I have gone back to how I first felt miserable, lost and wondering if I have made a mistake Again!!! I could always trust him. Men do the same, too. Married for 10 years then she just leaves for an ex through social media. For example, if she hated the way you obsess about saving money, then shes eventually going to wind up right back in the same place again. His response to me was, your love is more like a chock hold that God forbid if he was doing something he enjoys like watching football or something. Then i said if he cant make a commitment we will break up. Would you ever trust her again? The green goes in the number 3 slots. In the end what this woman told me would change week by week day by day. Dear Ambrose, this scenario is quite common among young lovers. My dear brother Ambrose, your ex-girlfriend had reasons as to why she acted in such ways and in my opinion she did all that just because she was seeing someone else. She said things like she wants to make sure its right, she still loves me, wants us to be together. You sound like me but I really can't get over her. Thats the type of thinking that will best serve you when youre trying to decide whether or not youre going to take your ex-girlfriend back. When I tried to contact him on Facebook messager, he ignoring me and dont want talk to me at all. Dating a Separated Man who went back to his wife and kids help! I know I will not try to fix it, that won't do any good, she broke it but I know this time she is done also. I really miss him. You just want someone to agree and say what's in your mind. But now she is blaming me for ending the relationship even when she is clearly the one who started the rift. i simply replied to her Go to hell So learn from my mistakes, never ever take your ex back. I hope you all can find peace and tranquility within yourselves . You take them for granted and forget the reasons why you liked them so much in the first place. Ochieng Simon Peter. I agreed to be. On the other hand you need to read about women psychology to get to know them better. All you can do is let them ignore you, and move forward. My wife left me 3 months ago. Can people change, I think some can but I think the odds are when somebody cheats and gets away with it how can they not think they forgave me before so I can do it again. Jack is a wise but curious figure whose exact whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. Yours could be one if those.. Last night's date went pretty well. I am sorry that you are going through all of this. One-nitis is a belief by a person that there's only and only one person they can love or be loved by in life. We were broken up for 4 years in which i dated many different women and undoubtedly she dated many different guys. The girl I dated over the weekend I'm going out with again on Saturday. If you ever want her back you have a lot to work on. Not sure what to do and need guidance. Post a free question on our public forum. Deogracious Ngwabe. A lot has happened in the last 24 hours I'd like to talk about. I still have feelings for my exwife, but don't know if I could rebuild the trust we once had and the new lady I'm seeing is someone I can see myself with long term. Flash forward till 2017I start to get the feeling she is withdrawing. Think about the reasons why you guys broke up. Please tell me wat i should do. She forgot that you take her dog walking in the evenings when shes too tired. I'm talking to a bee. My boyfriends wife wants him back.. . My wife of 14yrs left, I want her back. Although I loved her so much, she did not give leave me any choice. Through the relationship we were best friends, we never fought, but we did compromise. - Yeah. I want someone who treats me like the only girl for him, not like I'm just an option. Do you have any tips for those whose ex came back and left again? She may have never seen it as lies but i did. Ts just some times when he made small mistakes or took time to reply me oe sent short replys thru text i got annoyed and told him to be better. Please face reality and tell her to get the hell out of your life forever. Then two weeks later he started messaging me and we started talking more and more until it became speaking 5 times a day like we had before when we were in a relationship. She doesn't want much to do with my ex-wife anymore because of the infidelity. Finally I send him a text asking him why i was feeling like i was paying the consequences of a move that i had nothing to do with. She humiliated you. He came over one last time with his daughter and we didnt even have sex. I feel i am being held hostage because she hasnt ended it but yet she isnt speaking to me. Things were looking good for a while. What do I do.l. The overall picture makes itself apparent in a very concrete way over time. I would recommend speaking with an attorney regarding your situation. It sounds like she saw what it's like out there and now wants the security of marriage with you. I tired to make her happy I tried to be as loving as i could. Thats because youre fighting about core personality traits that dont go away. I chased her again for a month, but my primary intention was to make her tell me the specific reason why she broke up with me. She left me. You put some blue splotches on the canvas and then you put some yellow splotches. I always thought she was a nice person and very attractive, but never even thought of her as more than a friend because I was married. I'm not saying this to make you feel guilty I am on your side. Do some research and find out why she left you? Dont let anyone come in and out of your life however they see fit. It is not easy to conclude on your behalf what your girlfriend meant. If any of it meant anything to her, then shell want to re-establish that connection. You want to look at the facts in an objective way and ignore the feeling you get from the amazing make-up sex thats coming your way. If you get charged, which seems unlikely get an attorney immediately. This is the only fixable type of breakup. There is a part of me who wants what we had before she left, but since I can't trust her, that prorbably won't happen. Sometimes the statement may be as much better meaning than an action. I will say it up set me so much as wellwhen you put all of your self in a relationship and banghe just walks out and he doesnt seem affectedhe cant understand why I am so upsethe tells me we will be back together when house is built. The endless cycle of break-ups and make-ups will make you look and feel like a complete tool. If you still love her I would at least ask her those questions and find out why. Havent you noticed that when you have fights with your significant other, you just rehash the same arguments over and over again? She called the former coworker sobbing asking how she could do this because my ex wants me back. Once you are out of the home, it is very difficult to get back in. I think everyone here agrees that you should move on, with the same reason why. No only once. And I'm not supposed to be doing this, but they were all trying to kill me. In the meantime he wasnt calling me and I wasnt calling him either. She left me for him and and now wants me back. I didn't hold much account into the reasons, but it was long distance and I believe she just felt like I couldn't give her enough attention. I just want you to understand the situation and know where you stand. Edward Tutor. I know it's hard if you love that person. All rights reserved |. Related: How to handle when she flirts with other guys. She tells me shes here for the long haul, yeah right She slowly drifts away from my life; sex becomes near zero, shes becomes a worse and worse person that she made it impossible to love her, but i still did; she becomes almost completely non-loving. Do the 180 on her, no contact only via email, she cannot come and go as she pleases, must make appointment to come to see kids. Anyone ever got back with their ex after a long period of time apart (2 years), did it work out? She hasn't been home for weeks and has been couch surfing since. My wife and I were together for total 6 years, 3 married. He couldnt do enough for me, finding me a car, getting some guys to sort out my roof on my London home, asking for payment as me taking him for dinner, then he sent me a twist on an equation we both love but basically saying that over time hes realised how much he cares for me and suggesting would I go back to him. Everything i did would upset her similar to our first breakup and the more she drifted the worse it became. 25 going on 18. Again, I am not saying this to hurt you. We were at two companies nad we had been so busy. Holy crap. If you do not care for any pain but rather love no matter what, then go back to her but it is you to love not her to love you back. Thats the feel-good neuro-chemical that gives us a rush of excitement, happiness and joy. Let me tell you straight Thomas, even if it hurts like hell when someone leaves you twice like that, you don't ever take them back. So after knowing the real reason why she kept breaking up with me, i was able to detach myself emotionally. Which is good to allow us to both move onto other relationships. Phoebe Miriam. It turn out, he did it again, change his number again. I appreciate you sharing your experience with us. When it comes to our Ex, we are completely irrational, and we make stupid mistakes even multiple times because we desperately want things to be as they were before. It's very hard to get over someone, especially after 13 years (3 dating, 10 married), but I'm trying. I am. 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